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UnEarthing, what's it all about anyways?

Greetings!

My world is a weird one. I am a warrioress bringing light to a shifting world. A peacemaker and a rebel. I seek justice and balance. I am an activist but know that life is not meant to be fair, so therefore, accept a lot as it is. I can be very passionate and a bit fiery. I am a giver and explorer for truths. I am no bleeding heart, but my heart aches when I see or feel others in pain. I have great purpose; I am a Leo…hear me roar!

That being said, I have very recently learned the art of peace. I spent years studying and embracing the art of war, and that’s a whole other persona (remember my fire?!). Now I embrace the art of peace and letting that ish…goooo! The world is awakening, and we are waking up hungry! That’s what this is all about. Bringing my readers, a slice of peace with a side of “how to.” I am a sharer. The things I will share below are just a few tid-bits of manna that I have collected throughout my life journey that have fed my soul. So, let’s break bread! Enjoy!

The Purpose Driven Coach

That’s right. Purpose. I do all things with purpose. Do you also? Have you ever considered connecting with your values and purpose? Practice these 8 easy actions towards unearthing your purpose in life.

1. Like myself, most people spend the majority of their lives in search of their divine purpose. Wouldn’t it be super awesome if we could stumble upon this revelation sooner? Perhaps it would…but then of course there’s this thing I like to believe in called, “everything happens exactly when, and as, it should happen.” Fate, destiny…PURPOSE. Whatever you may call it, the “thing” seems illusive when we are young just trying to survive life and all its many bumps in the road. BUT, what if I told you that you don’t actually “find” your purpose. Instead, you create it. Here are eight very simple moves to help guide you on your unearthing purposeful journey. 1. Follow your joy. 2. Don’t try to find it. 3. It really is all about “feeling.” 4. Check in daily, with yourself. 5. Be committed, or at the very least, faithful to yourself. 6. Set your intention, daily. 7. Be open to newness and growth, expand from your comfort zone. 8. Embrace courage. And as a bonus…remember that you are a gift to the world.

2. Follow your joy. We all have a unique purpose here on this earth. When we can connect with and stay connected to our joy, therein lays the answer to unearthing our purpose. Our true state of being is in fact a state of happiness. Happiness is a state of consciousness. Think about it…how many movie titles are dedicated to the search for happiness? When you were born, did anyone have to teach you how to smile? Or tell you when? My guess is no. You didn’t have to learn how to be happy, you just WERE…it was innate. You smiled when you had gas, you smiled when some adult came and made a goofy face at you. You even smiled in your sleep. 😊 But the point I am trying to make is that, you smiled and laughed and giggled because you knew happiness. What if I told you the pysop is in the fact that happiness truly isn’t illusive, but rather abundant and readily available for everyone…all we need to do is connect with that state of consciousness again that we were born connected into. Sounds too simple to be true. It’s not. This is where unearthing your truth comes in…

3. Don’t try to find it. People literally drive themselves crazy seeking and thinking about what their purpose is. We are all conditioned from a very young age to begin thinking about ‘what’ we will be when we grow up. Not ‘who’ but rather ‘what.’ That’s a big statement. Read it again. We are human BEINGS, not human DOINGS. How many times have you gone round and round trying to find the big “truth” about ‘what’ you are destined to become? You may even have ten college degrees or trade school diplomas to help you feel as if you are finally “officially” something! And yet, you still FEEL so empty. However, I am not telling you not to explore! Please do, GO EXPLORE, and enjoy the journey!! What I am trying to highlight now though are, feelings. Those are monumentally important. I will discuss that in my next point though. For this point, I am going to let you in on a truth, you’ve been looking for your purpose in the wrong place. It is within your heart, not your mind. Joy. Heart. FEELING. That is the difference between going out in search of your purpose, like it exists somewhere out there in the world (and of course we should always be in pursuit of it) and UnEarthing it from within. Because your purpose is internal and intrinsic, all we need to do, is cultivate it. Like cultivating our own personal garden of innate gifts that come along with our very soul. <3

4. Daily check-ins with yourself. I can’t even tell you how many apps are available now that were produced to track just that, daily check-ins. We all have an internal “joy” gauge. It resides in your heart. Ahh…there’s the heart again. Check-in and connect daily to what feels good to you. From the miniscule to the monumental. Want waffles for breakfast? Lunch date? New career path? All of it needs to pass the daily heart test.

5. Be committed, or at the very least, true to yourself. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to do anything that does not align with what is in your heart. Negative beliefs are joy crushers, if you allow it. Nothing just “happens” to you. The universe simply responds to the vibes we put out there. So, commit. Inhale the good stuff, exhale the negative. Are you doing that which you are passionate about? Challenge yourself to committing to joy for even just one week. I promise you will land where you want to be.

6. Be intentional. Set your intentions daily. Make a joy pact that every single day you will focus on building. Gratitude, affirmations, HUNT THE GOOD STUFF! Do it, say it, make it, BE it. Setting your intention at the start of each day to build your joy is immeasurably powerful.

7. Be open…to newness and growth. When new opportunities arise, honestly consider them. Don’t just be-bop through life accepting status quo and end up in a woulda, shoulda, coulda state of mind. Trust that new opportunities are always possibilities that may lead you towards creating your purpose. Be opened to letting go of all the things that no longer serve you to make space as well.

8. Embrace courage. I know it may sound strange, but sometimes what makes us feel good can also be pretty scary to us! Ever met someone scared of success so they sabotage themselves? Yeah, I have…ME! We are all affected by many different conditioning factors. How we grew up. Personal beliefs based on life experiences. Generational belief systems. Expectations, both coming and going. Let’s talk about the etymology of the word “courage” though: courage (n.) From the old English word, corage, meaning “stout.” Spirit, temperament, state or frame of mind. The root of the word is ‘cor’ – the Latin word for heart (as in, the seat of emotions). Stout-hearted. In its earliest form, the word courage meant “to speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, this definition has obviously been altered. Now it is typically associated with heroic or brave deeds. I would assess that Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather making a deliberate choice not to allow fear to cripple you and acting instead with the heart. Yes, you said it…there’s the HEART, again! It’s a theme.

Don’t ‘should’ all over me, or yourself

Should have, would have, could have…these phrases are nothing but repressive, negative, and can be very destructive to our lives. And yet, we all say them, feel them, and think them. I am a regret mom. I should have known something else was going on with my baby boy. Correction, I DID know something was going on…but I didn’t know what, and it was incredibly scary. Fear. So, I ignored my gut feeling (intuition) and I followed the direction of medical doctors. Because they know more than me, right? I didn’t feel qualified to ask questions. I ‘should have’ known better. I can’t tell you how many times I have allowed those words to come out of my mouth and continue being destructive in my life. We often underestimate ourselves and it leads to making poor choices or decisions that we later qualify by saying…shoulda, woulda, coulda. We gave someone or something else the power of our energy.

One important thing I have come to realize about telling myself what I shoulda, woulda, coulda done…better… is that these phrases serve to basically do 3 things: 1. Reinforce any negative views I may already have of myself. 2. Automatically make me “wrong.” 3. Keep me trapped in the past.

When is this shoulda, woulda, coulda realization beneficial? Yes, this concept can actually be beneficial too. The saying goes that “hindsight is always 20/20” and we know that this has some foundational truth to it, but not always. You’ll usually notice the lack of benefit when we are repeating those destructive behaviors and not making better choices. BUT…sometimes we can take those shoulda, woulda, coulda moments and turn them into “I did it” moments by making better choices in the present, NOW. Instead of beating yourself up for what you didn’t do, you may now look forward to how you will make a better, or at the very minimum, different choice in the present future. Although, I know that is a hard concept to embrace in the moment. Especially when those shoulda, woulda, coulda moments come with some really hard life lessons or cause pain.

So, how do we keep from should’g all over ourselves and recognizing when those instances require some reasonable introspection? We start living unconditionally. Take a deep breath…and know this: You did the best you could do armed with the knowledge you had at the time. If you shoulda, woulda, coulda done better, you would have!

Through living unconditionally, you allow yourself to simply be who you are. You embrace who you are totally and love who you are entirely. Make peace with who and where you are right now. Matter of fact, eliminate the word ‘shoulda’ from your vocabulary. It does not serve your highest purpose in the present moment, and that is where we best operate from.

Living unconditionally means we empower ourselves in the NOW. The spiritual journey has nothing to do with being nice, it is all about being real and authentic to ourselves. Having boundaries. Not going with the status quo or living life out of scarcity or fear. Honoring and respecting your space first. Living NOW, unconditionally, no more should’g all over the place.

Faith, Beliefs, and Boundaries

Imperfections and Imbalances → I am human. You are human. What does it mean to be human? Are there guidelines? Instructions? We take it as a given, but it is not. Things like emotional intelligence, self-examination, shadow integration, communication, health, and symbiosis with nature are core to being human, and yet do you know of anyone that embodies all of them? So how do we know that we are, human? Faith. As the outside (society) focuses on how to make us more or less human, I aim to take that focus inward. Bring your awareness back to center. Whether you have a foundational religious based faith, or non-religious spiritual based faith…I believe that having inherent faith is a big part of the human root system.

Some may confuse faith with belief. Belief is the thought and faith is knowing. Recently I was introduced to some varying concepts about the power of our own beliefs. In the search for evidence-based proof that our beliefs shape our entire world, I came across some repetitive but rather basic theories. What our mind seeks, it will find. Whether consciously or subconsciously. Let’s first discuss dreams. Our subconscious mind often communicates via dreams. But can dreams really come true? Depends, what do you believe? I say…of course they can!! but you might need these five essentials in your manifesting tool kit: Childlike belief/faith, because we all know that children truly think (belief) and know (faith) that they are invincible beings. Imaginary laser gun, to zap any negative beliefs that arise. Pew. Pew. A good inspiration kit…you have it all within you, it’s called your “imagination” now prepare to amaze yourself! Super awesome courageous bare feet, so you can dig your toes into the earth and move those mountains one dredged piece of soil at a time. And last but not lease…pure, unadulterated excitement so you can cultivate all the positive energy and engage with the powerful creator that resides within you. Prepare to connect with your subconscious mind, your dreams…and begin to unearth your truth.

Just in case that laser gun jams up though, here are some more tools to add to your toolkit. Let’s talk boundaries and how to nurture your inner critic – these are just a few ways I have found really work to stop the negative thoughts and patterns and begin replacing them with ways to cultivate that childlike belief and faith that I am truly a loveable resilient being that will accomplish anything I set out to do!! *Greet yourself. *Celebrate you. *Be kind to yourself. *Choose happy. *One act of self-love daily. *Connect with your inner child. *Meditate or Pray. *Exercise. *Give your body rest. *Be flexible. *Practice gratitude. *Encourage yourself. *Dream BIG.

NOTE: All of those daily habits are affirmative actions and use positive language! Eeekkkk…so exciting!

UnEarthing Your Truth

Go ahead…rub me the wrong way. Let’s examine and delve into a powerful new way of relating.

We’ve all been there. Sometimes it feels as if frustration with others is flooding our life. It weighs us down, figuratively, and literally. We begin to feel weary. Especially living today. Everyone has an opinion and some reason that everyone else’s opinions offend them. It is exhausting to try and keep up with really.

So, what exactly is the key to surviving the chaos? The key is this, it’s not personal. Once you realize that, and can truly embrace it, you will easily understand that another’s behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. And that my friends, is none of your business! Here’s the fun part, YOU get to choose how you will respond, or react…depending on what level you’re currently vibe’g at in present moment. These moments are gifts if you choose to view them that way. Opportunities to view our own growth, chances to stop and evaluate how (and possibly why) we are allowing other’s peoples emotional stuff to rub us the wrong way, I mean, don’t we already have enough of our own emotional stuff to deal with? Now that is our business. That which triggers you is where you may need to do some work still. Can we talk about shadow work? YESSS! That will definitely be a topic for later on down the road! But for now, the bottom line is this, we are all a work in progress. No shaming, no judgment. If you’re too busy unearthing your own truth, everyone else won’t have the ability to disturb your biosphere.

So, it’s not personal now. Dude chill. What would Jesus do? Do you genuinely want to live your life abundantly and unconditionally…NOW? Ok, let’s do this.

Deconstruct. Decode. Let go. Be free. Attachments to the outcome creates resistance. That is how energy works. Which is why manifesting doesn’t “work” for some people. Intention is different than attachment. You must let go of attachment.

Let that sh!@ GO. Yes, that is correct. Not as in excusing behaviors or allowing people to walk all over you, we just talked about boundaries in the previous writings up above. But really just, letting ‘it’ pass on by you. Letting go is actually extraordinarily easy. It only becomes difficult because we believe that if we let go of that attachment, we won’t get it…whatever the “it” is that we are so in desperate need of. That couldn’t be further from the truth though. Keeping the attachment and needing to control an outcome for whatever it is that you are manifesting actually creates resistance and it is rooted in the false sense that something on the outside is going to make us happy on the inside. Remember when I said happiness is a state of consciousness? When we can operate from an open space without attachments to outcomes it will completely transform your life. Attachment often equals suffering. You can get what you really want but once the honeymoon phase is over, you’re off to seek the next pleasure response. It isn’t true happiness though. It works this way with people, places, things…life. We must ask ourselves, why do we want that thing? A lot of attachments are pointing us in the direction of our shadows. The ego or operating from a space of scarcity. Letting go of that inner resistance and letting the flow just happen, relaxing the need for a certain outcome will then actually manifest abundantly. Let go and allow things to be easy. When you let go, your energy then becomes free and you will magnetically attract those things, people, etc…to you, that you need. You do it ‘just because,’ not because of what it will get you. There is actually a payoff either way, but one pays off abundantly and the other pays off karmically. Let go to let in. Raise your vibe.

The awareness that you have a choice of letting go of this kind of negativity in your life is empowering, and in it you can create such a beautiful space of Grace. Within this space others can breathe knowing that the burden of perfection is not present. They can be free to be human, make mistakes, as we all do…and this is also the space where you begin to accept more of yourself too. That is when you can begin your shadow work. Authenticity shows up big time as you continue to unearth all the little nuances of your innermost being. In this space you are unearthing that intuitive knowledge that you are always enough.


Conclusion

Lao Tzu stated in regards to the Tao and the question of love:

“Embracing Tao, you become embraced. Supple, breathing gently, you become reborn. Clearing your vision, you become clear. Nurturing your beloved, you become impartial. Opening your heart, you become accepted. Accepting the World, you embrace Tao. Bearing and nurturing, Creating but not owning, Giving without demanding, Controlling without authority, This is love.”

Lao Tzu suggested having love makes a person courageous, and love is powerful, courage is higher when one has depth to their love; "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."

Heart. Feeling. Joy. Courage. PURPOSE. See the theme here…

And as a bonus…remember that you are a gift to the world.



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